What it takes to love someone who has anxiety?

“Someone with anxiety falls in love the way you do. The only difference is that while they’re falling in love, their brain is also coming up with a million different reasons why they shouldn’t. Someone with anxiety falls in love slowly, cautiously because they’re always thinking- this can’t possibly last, this can’t possibly be real, this is too good to be true, something is going to ruin this at some point. Someone with anxiety falls in love with a strange mixture of hope and dread. Hope- that they finally have found someone that they can freely talk to, someone they can depend on, someone they can trust. And dread- that they won’t be good enough, they don’t deserve it and that there might be a possibility of their heart being shattered at any moment.

             But someone with anxiety also falls in love wholeheartedly. They fall in love fiercely and absolutely and with the commitment of something that finally feels light,exciting and real. They feel scared but certain, out of control but also light hearted.

          They appreciate the big stuff but they fall in love during little moments- quiet car rides, deep sleeps, across the room looks in the middle of a boring party. They fall in love during the reassuring conversations. 

        Little moments matter a lot to them because they make them feel normal. Little things with someone special makes them realise that it doesn’t have to take much to bring them back from a dark memory or a panic attack. Someone with anxiety falls in love the same way you do. They fall in love intensely, vulnerably and wholly.

  The only difference for them is getting to a place where they believe that they truly deserve it.”

Lots of love

Spurthy